Workplace Relationships Policy Template for Employers

A workplace relationships policy deals with consensual romantic relationships between colleagues. It does not forbid them. It asks for disclosure where one person has authority over the other, or where the relationship could affect decisions on pay, rosters, audits or approvals, and explains how the company will adjust reporting lines fairly. It also makes clear where a relationship ends and harassment begins.

When to use it: Introduce it once the company grows beyond a single team, and brief people managers on handling disclosures. HR drafts it and the leadership team approves it, which also signals that it applies to them. Treat every disclosure discreetly, and revisit the policy after any case in which a relationship led to a complaint or a conflict.

Workplace relationships policy template

Copy the text below and replace everything in square brackets with your company details.

1. Purpose

This policy respects employees' private lives while making sure that personal relationships at [Company Name] do not lead to favouritism, conflicts of interest or an uncomfortable working environment for others.

2. Scope

It applies to all employees, including senior management and directors. It covers relationships between employees, and relationships with employees of customers or vendors where the employee can influence the business.

3. Definitions

Workplace relationship: a consensual romantic or sexual relationship between employees, including dating, living together, engagement and marriage.
Position of influence: authority to supervise, appraise, roster, approve leave, overtime or expenses, decide pay or promotion, audit work, or award business.

4. Policy

Consensual relationships between adult employees are a private matter and are not prohibited.
Where one partner holds a position of influence over the other, the relationship must be disclosed to HR within [Number] days of it beginning. Both partners should disclose, and the more senior partner is responsible for making sure it happens.
After disclosure, the Company will arrange things so that neither partner takes decisions affecting the other, for example by changing the reporting manager, the approver or the person who sets the roster.
At work, both partners keep their conduct professional, and neither gives or receives favours in shifts, leave, overtime or ratings.
A relationship with an employee of a customer or vendor whose business you influence is declared under the Conflict of Interest Policy.
Pressure to begin or continue a relationship, or unwelcome advances after it ends, may amount to sexual harassment and will be referred under the POSH Policy.

5. Procedure

Disclose to your HR partner in person, or by an email marked confidential.
HR meets both employees, agrees the changes needed, and records only the fact of the relationship and the steps taken.
Changes to reporting lines are made without loss of pay or grade for either person. Where one of the two must move, the junior employee is not moved by default.
Not disclosing a relationship that creates a conflict is misconduct under the Disciplinary Action Policy.
If the relationship ends, either employee may ask HR for changes to shifts, seating or reporting lines so that both can keep working comfortably.

6. Responsibilities

Employees: disclose relationships where required and keep conduct professional.
Managers: pass any disclosure made to them to HR, and never discuss it with the team.
HR: keep disclosures confidential and make fair, prompt changes.

7. Exceptions

Couples who join the Company already married, or whose relationship began before this policy took effect, follow the same disclosure and reporting line rules. The Hiring of Relatives Policy also applies to them.

8. Review

[HR Head Designation] reviews this policy every [24] months, and after any complaint or conflict that involved a workplace relationship, to check that disclosures are being made and handled fairly.

What to include

Not a ban

Say plainly that consensual relationships are allowed. Bans are unrealistic, push relationships out of sight and make disclosure impossible.

Disclosure tied to influence

Ask for disclosure where one partner can affect the other's pay, roster, approvals or ratings, or where the relationship touches customers and vendors. That is where the business risk lies.

Fair changes after disclosure

Change reporting lines and approvers without loss of pay or grade, and do not move the junior partner by default. Otherwise people will stop disclosing.

Discretion

Record only the fact of the relationship and the steps taken, and keep it out of team conversations. Gossip after a disclosure is a breach of the policy in itself.

The line to harassment

Explain that pressure, or unwelcome advances after a break-up, is a POSH matter. This protects employees and stops a complaint being dismissed as a private quarrel.

Leaders included

State that directors and senior managers follow the same rules. A policy that exempts the top team loses credibility quickly.

Common mistakes to avoid

Banning all relationships, which drives them underground and makes disclosure impossible.
Moving the junior partner to a worse role by default after a disclosure.
Discussing a disclosed relationship with the team or copying it into group emails.
Exempting senior leaders from the disclosure rule.
Treating a complaint after a break-up as a private matter instead of a possible harassment case.

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When a disclosure calls for a change, HR updates the reporting manager in the employee's organization assignment. Approvals in ZeniaHR follow a fixed chain of reporting manager and then HR, so from then on the new manager receives that employee's leave, attendance correction, overtime and shift swap requests. If the partner sits outside the new reporting chain, the employee also drops out of the partner's My Team view. The org chart confirms the new reporting line. Keep the disclosure note in a restricted HR file.

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Frequently asked questions

Can a company ban relationships between employees?

Most companies choose not to, because a ban is hard to enforce and pushes relationships out of sight. A better approach is to allow consensual relationships but require disclosure when one person has influence over the other's work, and then change reporting lines or approvals so that decisions stay fair for everyone.

Does an employee have to tell HR about a relationship with a colleague?

Only where the policy requires it, usually when one partner supervises, appraises, rosters or approves anything for the other, or where the relationship could affect decisions involving customers or vendors. Relationships between colleagues in unrelated teams normally need no disclosure, although employees are still expected to keep conduct at work professional.

What is the difference between a workplace relationship and sexual harassment?

A workplace relationship is consensual and welcome to both people, while sexual harassment is unwelcome conduct of a sexual nature. The line can shift: continued advances after someone has said no, or pressure linked to work decisions, turns a personal matter into harassment, which the Internal Committee handles under the POSH policy.

What happens if a manager dates someone in their team?

The manager should disclose it to HR promptly. HR will usually move the team member to another reporting manager, or move approvals, appraisals and rosters to someone else, without reducing either person's pay or prospects. Hiding such a relationship while approving the partner's leave, overtime or rating is treated as misconduct.